I’ve know my bestfriend for 10 years and we’ve been roommates for 6 years. All those years, he would drink at least twice a week, mostly during the weekends. I have tried to be supportive when he’s been sober for 6 weeks…been going to the gym with him; he’s lose the beer belly; praised and thanked him every night for such great time together, eating healthy, etc., but he relapsed. He says that he goes through this phase of stopping cold turkey for weeks and months…then he’s back into the “old habit.” I don’t think I’m doing him any good by buying his alcohol. I try not to be around him too much when he’s been drinking and we hardly talk when he does. I buy his alcohol and then leave him be for days. I don’t know what else to do. He has expressed interest to go to rehab (like Mt. Vista Farms) but we both know that it’s expensive and no one can help us financially. Should I feel bad if I kick him out of my apartment and leave him hungry & homeless? What can justify the guilt that I would feel when I do so?
CORRECTION: It started gradually with 2x/wk, then continued on everyday.
You know he is sick. Eff helping him and just kick him out. Thats what real friends do.
drinking twice a week qualifies a person as a alcoholic???
i wouldn’t kick him out, but you may want to threaten to if he doesn’t start o change his ways. isn’t AA a free ‘service’?
and you might want to stop buying him liquor~you’re just supporting his habits. good luck
stop buying/purchasing his liquor. There are rehabs that do not cost as much, all he has to do is look, if he is serious. Throwing him out, if his drinking is interfering with your life, by all means throw him out. Which is obvious the case, you do not need to bear guilt for protecting self. He must handle his own responsibilities.
Get him out of your life,
he’ll never change until he wants to,
nobody can help him besides himself,
You need to have him gone,
please don’t feel guilty, you will be doing him and yourself the favour in the long run
good luck
xxx